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Making Bouncy Balls

One weekend when Nate was gone hunting the kids and I made bouncy balls. It was a simple project I found on Pinterest. The recipe is here.

The project went very smooth because I had it all set up and organized before the kids were allowed to enter the kitchen!

They rolled and squished and smothered their little globs of yuck unti they started to stick together and become a ball.

Finally, they were done and could play with their new bouncy balls!


Jaylean Rae Is A Superstar

You read that right. Jaylean Rae is my little superstar princess. She is doing amazing. She is doing awesome. She is doing fantastic. She has not had an excessive meltdown in over a week. Probably the longest she has gone at home since the honeymoon phase. Her eyes are brighter. She is happier. She is cooperative. She is a joy to be around. It appears that her moods may be more organized and cyclical pointing toward Bipolar or it could be that she is really working very hard on her anger and emotions and doing her very best to accept our love and our help. Or there is no answer for it. We are enjoying the ride while it lasts. We are proud of her.

We are enjoying her. We always love her but right now she is easier to love. She is so important to us. It makes my heart swell to see her happy. To give her a good night kiss that she wants and to hear her say she loves me. To feel her hug where she wraps her arms around my neck and really squeezes. Delightful. It’s like eating dessert before dinner – it’s that good. We as a family have so much more energy and fun without having to fight battles every night with her. We as a family are doing better. Right at this moment I feel like we are all going to be ok. I need this moment. I need to feel ok. I need to feel love for my daughter and feel my own attachment to my daughter. Attachment is a two way street and I would be lying if I said it was only her lack of attachment that is the problem. It’s as much MY lack of attachment to her as it is HER lack of attachment to me. We struggle, she and I. Not a mother daughter struggle but a true relational struggle. It’s painful for me to love on her and hug on her. It comes naturally for me with the boys, I don’t know why. With her it is hard. She needs love and deserves love and sometimes I have to pull up my big girl panties and let them snap, and I have to hug Jaylean when I don’t want to hug her and I need to say “I love you” when I don’t want to say “I love you” – sometimes I just have to do it. Even when I get kicked, spit at, and hit in return. But right now we are good. We are well. We are healthy. We are loving. We feel normal. I am so proud of her. I am so proud of me. I am so proud of Nate and the boys. I am proud of our family.

At this moment, I can say, Jaylean Rae is going to be alright. I hope it sticks.

Mason The Elf

We are having an Elfing good time around here. Seriously, Elfing spectacular. We adopted an Elf on The Shelf from Target The North Pole. The Elf is quite ridiculous actually but it’s a really fun idea. There is a ton of useful and education information on where to hide the Elf for maximum entertainment for the parents kids. For the record, our elf is naughty but does not make gigantic messes that I would have to clean up anyway. The biggest mess Mason has made is tossing a 1/4 of a bag of leftover marshmallows from the camping season. This mama is not a dummy, I knew my kids would eat those marshmallows faster than a dyson could suck them up, and they did. Elfing Crazy I tell you.

To get the Elfing party started the kids woke up on Thanksgiving day to the Elf sitting on the table with a letter and the book – in a Mason jar – hence, the name Mason. He was in the jar because I knew my kids would handle him like no other before I even considered waking up. They would possibly, even fight and rip him into three uneven pieces. That would be an Elfing shame. The letter was as follows:

Dearest Dorcheus Children,
I am an elf sent from Santa in the North Pole to report your behavior before Christmas. I help Santa decide if you will be on the Nice list or the Naughty list. You have all had some very sweet moments.
Jaylean I love your singing voice. Javien I like how you can be so helpful for your mom and dad and teachers at school. Kobe I like how you help your mom out so much.
You also have a few things to work on if you want Santa to stop at your house this year! My lovely Jaylean you need to watch yourself! Your mother and father love you very much I hope that you will be more careful in how you treat them. My sweet Javien my word you can scream loud, my elfing ears were about to pop off! I hope that you will practice some of your calming down tools to help get better control over that. Santa does not like it when children scream at their parents. Oh happy little Kobe, you must be better about listening to your mom and dad. They tell you to do things for a reason you know.
I will be sticking around until Christmas reporting back to Santa every night, so you better watch out and you surely better not shout at your mom and dad. Please never ever touch me. I will lose my magic!
Now take this book I have left for you to your mom or dad and they will read it. Make sure you listen carefully. Elves are under very strict orders from Santa and you must follow each rule perfectly.
Your Elfing Friend
PS: You may talk to me all you want, and I can pass on some tidbits to Santa you know. But remember you must NEVER touch me.

Since the initiation of Mason into our family. He has shown up on the clock, in Mama’s shoe on the TV, in the Christmas tree with the children’s undies hanging all over it, in Kobe’s piggy bank, on the aerogarden surrounded by herbs and gum, riding on Javien’s stuffed horse on top of the refrigerator, magnetically hanging on the front door with his own little wish list, flying the little people airplane from the ceiling fan, and sitting on the mirror holding the incriminating marshmallow.

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Kobe touched him yesterday. So his magic has drained and he did not move last night. What a sad Elfing day. Kobe will beg him for forgiveness and he will move again tonight, I have a feeling.

This Is Halloween!

Another Epic Halloween for Our Fab Five! This year Halloween fell on a school night – but we made the best of the evening and had a blast with the kids and their super cute costumes! We went out in our local Historic District and it was awesome-ness. One house was decorated and we had to go through the house around to the out the back side door. We could hear the teenagers screaming as they were going through so we were a bit concerned about the scare factor! They did a great job of tailoring it to the kids age and did not scare our kids at all! Well ok Jaylean was a tad frightened but I think she was actually more overwhelmed than scared pretty much the whole night.

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Kids Art on Canvas!

After creating my own masterpiece I needed something to balance out my living room wall. I wanted the kids to do a little project that was more formal than the everyday scribblings happy little pictures they hang in the art gallery. {Bob Ross is the bomb!} I digress, what I am trying to say is I combined a little of this and a little of that and the kids created some really quite cool artwork. On 12×12 canvas I drew a bare bones tree with my brown paint pen. The tree was on the straight and narrow for Javien, a little bit on the rebellious side for Jaylean, and all kinds of happy and crazy for Kobe. Fitting – yes. Then one color at a time they used the same five colors I chose for my original masterpiece and they decorated their bare bones tree with fingerprints. They turned out beautiful! I love them!

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The Pumpkin Patch

I can’t believe it is our third year going to the Pumpkin Patch with our Haiti Friends. Enjoy the photos. It was a really great morning spent with equally great friends!

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Field Trip!

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Kobe and I decided to join Jaylean’s class on a little field trip to the fire station. We had a nice time. Jaylean was happy to see us and didn’t want us to go! Kobe enjoyed trying on the mask and hat that the firemen wear. Good stuff!